It is easy to feel ashamed and embarrassed when you cannot complete simple tasks that seem so effortless for everyone else. But it is important to remember that this experience is common for those living with ADHD and that there are ways to manage the distress associated with not being productive.
The Reality Of Productivity With ADHD
Productivity can be difficult for adults with ADHD because it affects our executive functioning—the part of our brain responsible for organizing information and making decisions—impacting our ability to plan, organize, focus, and complete tasks. As a result, everyday activities like paying bills or finishing a project may take longer than expected or not get done at all. This can lead to guilt and shame because we know what needs to be done, but we do not have the mental energy or focus needed to do it.
Recognize And Accept
The first step in coping with the distress of not doing is recognizing and accepting the feelings as part of your experience. This is easier said than done, but it is essential to be gentle and patient with yourself. Remember that everyone has moments when they feel less than productive—including people who don’t have ADHD!
Productivity Is More Than Accomplishments
It is also important to remember that productivity is not only about accomplishments. It can also be about taking care of yourself and nurturing your relationships. Try setting aside time each day for activities like reading, talking with friends, listening to music, walking in nature, or whatever else brings you joy and peace.
Focus On What You Can Do
Finally, learn to focus on what you can do instead of what you can not do. This may mean breaking down tasks into smaller chunks or setting realistic goals. It could also involve using tools such as timers or organizing apps to help make tasks more manageable. You might even consider working with a coach or mentor who understands the challenges associated with adult ADHD and who can provide valuable support and guidance along the way.
Living with adult ADHD often means living with stress, guilt, shame, anxiety, and overwhelm from time to time due to difficulties completing tasks or staying organized– which is why it is so important to remember that there are ways we can manage our stress without feeling all these negative emotions about not being productive all the time!
By recognizing our feelings honestly and accepting them as part of our experience, focusing on self-care or relationships rather than productivity alone, and finding practical tools – we can create a better balance between productivity & well-being!